DOWN AND FEELING DEPRESSED AFTER GRADUATING- my experience

The lead up to this all started during my final year of university. I really had to start deciding what it is I wanted to do after graduation and what exact career path I wanted to follow and I had mixed feelings of anxiety, excitement but confusion too. Have you ever noticed how much of life’s transitional periods are labeled with anxious vibes? The time you start school for the first time, starting a new job, Mid-Life Crisis, cold feet before marriage, empty-nest syndrome and retirement are just a few examples of transitional times in our lives when people tend to panic about change.

Throughout my whole time at university, I was blasted with a constant plethora of clichés. “Enjoy your time at university while it lasts, make the most of being a student, university will be the best time of your life.” All those statements have so far proven to be true to some extent and when I was done I didn’t know what to do with myself or know what my life was supposed to be after that… and TBH I still don’t know!

For the last 20 something years of my life, I’ve gone from being told what to do, where to go and for how long, to then being independent to make my own choices and decisions of what and when I want to do something and how. I’ve always had a clear-cut idea and plan of what and when I wanted to do something.

But what happens after university I thought? How do I deal with the major life-changing transition from education into the workplace? Or how do I cope with these overwhelming emotions of emptiness and lack of direction, that followed after I had thrown my cap into the air?

During the course of my studies I lived very far from home and afterward, I was expecting to start work in the same city which ended up falling through and then I had to prepare to move back home. Trading my full-blown independence, power, and responsibility, for moving back seemed like an unnatural step backwards of nothing but failure, all that I had planned for was not going according to plan.

My parents were so proud of me and very supportive and encouraging throughout. They assured me to be led by God apply and wait on God but that I had to RELAX! I Had been in the education system for so long that there was nothing wrong with a break and just for me to enjoy my summer and my time off until God said it as time. This was fine and I started to accept that however alongside my own uncertainties was the voices of so-called “aunties and Uncles” (not family members) who had so much to say about what I was NOT doing because I wasn’t working (even though I was looking for work) they behaved as if they were there throughout my journey praying and encouraging me and knew what was going on in my life, but yet had plenty to say about nothing which they knew nothing of smh.

When it came to actually applying and choosing the jobs I wanted to do, I hadn't quite prepared myself as much as I had done in my head. I applied for job after job and even got offered one in York that I declined. I went to many interviews and I was feeling good that I'd got to these stages. But they all fell through for one reason or another. It isn't as easy to shake off bad interviews as it is to shake off a not so great mark - on an assignment. In university, you know you have more chances; in the real world, you'll feel like you don't always have that guarantee. Plus, life gets more expensive when you leave uni and lose all those nice shiny discounts.

Although I knew God would take care of me I was scared.  There’s a common misconception that university is just a never-ending three-year party, in fact, the party does end, and there is not enough being done or told to help with the clearing up afterwards. Shame on all my friends who had graduated way before me for not telling me this until wayyy after tsk lol.

Needless to say, all these changes left me not only feeling lost but I had EXTREME sadness! my mind would get plagued with negative thoughts, I cried, at times I felt like I had no purpose, I had an abnormally negative perspective which was not like me, lack of direction, decreased motivation to get out of bed and do what I enjoyed such as working out or writing, a general sense of hopelessness which at times I felt drawn to stay there.

I knew God would see me through but He felt distant, I would listen to sermons, study my bible which would give me a glimmer of hope but it felt hard to break through and I wasn’t getting any revelations. I still felt alone, scared and lost. My own idea of what my life was supposed to be like cooked with my fears had me wondering what on earth God was doing with my life! I said God if you brought me here why Is it not working out! Lord WHAT ARE YOU DOING?? I felt like I was drowning I seriously was not expecting to be tested like this, after all, I had given up and renewed and served God whilst I was at uni. I honestly felt like Elijah throughout this whole ordeal in 1 Kings 17-19. Although Elijah was bold and decisive for the Lord and had his prosperous moments, in chapter 19, we find Elijah fearful, running scared, exhausted, depressed, and wanting to die. Like Elijah I felt like I did “right” and therefore I should get what I want and needed from God. But as I look back this story it really reveals that for everything there is a season and I CANNOT AND SHOULD NOT COMPARE MYSELF TO OTHERS. 

We have our good days but also at times our faith is put to the test and we need to recover and rest in order to hear instructions from that “still small voice” from God rather than just getting what we want.  I’ll be honest during this season it’s easy to get back to what is comfortable and to have an outlet or even feeling sorry for yourself especially on social media too when everyone is stunting and you feel left out. But press on and just CHILL OUT! As I read on chapter 19 because Elijah was feeling exhausted he rested and an Angel sent him food because If he didn’t eat the journey would have been overwhelming for him. This really resonated with me because I felt pressure to be “on” all the time and have it together and to be NEVER weak, as these new graduate opportunities should have been flying my way but it was not to be the case. When I look back at the trail of events leading to this moment I’m thankful and honestly believe it’s because I had begun to trust more in myself and had placed my hope in things and events rather than God all by Himself. I was starting to think “if I was here, If God would give me this, and God if this happened I would be happy and everything would be perfect” but really, I needed God to show me my heart and make me over which He really is doing and its PAINFUL at times because I’m really having to renew my mind and let go of my own understanding to develop faith even MORE in the unseen and unknown.

As I was spending time with God I was listening to this sermon and the preacher said, God wants you to be fruitful. He wants us to bear His fruits of the Spirit. It’s not only our faithfulness and our works that matters but God is concerned with our characters and refining to be able to last from now to eternity.  I then came across 

James 1:2-5 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” 

It then really dawned on me that I seriously needed to change my perspective and not fight this season BUT LET GO AND LET GOD LEAD and OPEN DOORS. It then hit me that maybe what I wanted I did not have the strength and ability to let go and I needed cultivation. God wants my fruitfulness and once I got this in my head and really accepted this, God then opened a door for me and IM NOW EMPLOYED with an amazing job! And even had to turn down 2. It really got me thinking because how often do we pursue things we are not ready to handle and apply for things out of impatience and desperation and that throws us off track? How many of us are gardens without gardeners and now we can’t be kept adequately because we didn’t allow God to tend to us? The devil will rush you to make rash decisions outside the will of God and have you feel like you're missing out. Don't fall for his tricks. Your value is not in what you're doing but Who you are and what Christ says you are.

 If you’re a new graduate or are in a silent season I would really encourage you to just rest and chill because God will always take care of what’s His and He will open doors with no problems for “The blessing of the LORD makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.” Proverbs 10:22. You don’t know what’s ahead and what you need to prepare for so literally ask God and He will guide you and bring you wise counsel and you have the rest of your life to work trust me! IM ALREADY TIRED HAHA. I’m not by any means what I ought to be and I don't know a whole lot but if God can reveal himself to me, He can to you too. I know that Life after graduation can have some major effects on your mental health because it did to me and If that’s your case I would also encourage you to not fight change – I'm still adjusting myself and I'm learning that change is ok. Life changes are usually out of our control. Of course, some initial resistance is natural, but it is really important to allow yourself some time to initially freak out. But then, positively breakdown the positives.You’re a blank canvas and God is your painter. You’re not alone, you have God and friends and Family.  Oh and me of course hahaha.

1.Talk to your fellow graduates and family.

it can be really daunting to have so much pressure piled onto you, especially if you don’t know what your next move is. Talking to your careers advisors before you graduate can open up some possibilities for yourself and your career. I also had amazing friends who really kept me accountable by checking on me generally and to ensure I was working on goals I had set to achieve prior to graduation, they really kept me in prayer and encouraged me.

2. Wait for the right job, rather than the first job.

Try not to be in such a desperate rush that you take a job just because it was the first one that came your way. Take your time with the important things in life – no job, relationship or experience should be hastily embarked upon due to fear of life passing you by.

3. Don’t compare yourself to other people.

Do not envy and congratulate your friends when they deserve it. As hard as it is to stomach at this point in, accept that everybody is different and God has a path different for them

4. Work out

When you look Good you feel good and you have the TIME to get fit! It improves your mood too.

5. Embrace the fact that you don’t have to go to work every day.

The opportunities to sleep in were bliss at University! work life is not like that so enjoy it.

11. Remind yourself that this stage is just a stage, and it too shall pass.

You may be disappointed, and your will and your way may be denied, but be assured that the Lord loves you, I know It’s hard to have a nice day when you wake up to an email saying, you didn’t get the job. But remember how things always work out in the end and one day you will be the one with the experience landing the job.

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Old Habits die Hard: beaten but i'm victorious

Why can’t you get this right … You’re such a failure”, “maybe you should just leave it... I mean it’s not that bad anyway right? “You’ll never get through it”, “why even bother?” “Do you think Jesus loves you and you keep falling for the same sins?”, “am I really saved?”

These are the many thoughts which have often plagued my mind during a period of brokenness, impatience, after failing at something, or when I felt like I took two steps forward and ten steps back. Recently I went through one of those periods whereby I have been impatient. I was just hard on myself and felt like I just wasn’t where I needed to be in life and I was failing at life miserably.

So I said to God I needed Him to come and work on me and He shown a light on something I had lost  my grasp on. A key thing which he revealed and I have come to learn and understand especially during a point of weakness is that there is a there is a difference between conviction and condemnation. 

Conviction: It’s a horrible feeling but it has good purpose so we can be converted and renewed to be in the image of Christ (see Isaiah 1:18). That is God’s way of tugging at our hearts to say, “Be on guard, you’re a child of God and Satan seeks to take you out”, “you’re slipping away, come home”, or “you know that didn’t please me, that was your old sinful nature, but come meet me in prayer and let’s get you clean”. Condemnation: This is no good feeling either and it’s certainly not from God. It’s not God’s will for any to perish (see 2 Peter 3:9). Jesus himself said he didn’t come to condemn, but to save us (see John 3:17). Condemnation is that voice when you hear “you will never get through this,” “you're a failure” “you need to show them” “just leave the church” or “God doesn’t love you and will never forgive you.”

Don’t get it twisted, God is not and will never be happy when we sin, and He certainly will not turn a blind eye to it, BUT He won’t simply cut you off for making a mistake. The bible shows that God is gracious, and only leaves us to do whatever we want when we clearly show Him we don’t want to listen (Romans 1:20-32). This was one of the things I was really finding it hard to come to grips and understand. This led me to a refresher on the prodigal son. This is one of many examples of what happens when we decide to do our own thing (sin). God is watching and waiting daily for us to return, but he won’t force us to come back. Yet, his love is displayed when He sees we made the effort to come back and He will run to meet us (Luke 15:11-32). Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. (James 4:8).

This was a major point for me. The major point being when WE make the EFFORT to come back and choose to lay aside our sins every day. See coming to God is a personal choice but know that we can’t be for God and be partaking in sin and many other trifling behaviours because it’s NOT God. In other words “he ain’t about that life”. This is where conviction comes into play and The Holy Spirit prompts us to let it go and chose to live Holy. When we disobey we are rebelling just like Satan did and we are essentially saying we are on His side. Disobedience will always catch up with you. I know this first hand. We can’t do the opposite of what God wants then pray for His blessings. There are many examples of this such as the Children of Israel. God was patient with and He would take them back with open arms but because they constantly chose sin and rebellion of Gods laws and precepts, eventually, they came to the place where the presence of God was no longer among them. The glory of God had departed and this is why they were defeated during wars.

God will not tolerate habitual sinning under any circumstances, so just because the process is long doesn’t mean you just give in. This is why we need Jesus to come and cleanse us from our deliberate and secret sins and old mind-set (see Psalm 19:12-14). Yes we are human and we all know from experience (I know I do) that we have our weaknesses, which is why we must seek God for strength because it’s a process whereby we need to learn and realise we can’t do it without him. I know in many cases I have cried especially when going through something hard that if only it would just go away with one prayer and that’s it, struggle done, or I have felt like if I was somewhere else then my life could be different.However, God allows us to have these struggles so we can only rely on His grace for strength (2 Corinthians 12:5-11).  It is through experiencing hardships or when I would rather be elsewhere doing something else that I really realise that without God it’s impossible.

 I have had to really wake up to this because it can be easy to think that because I’m living for God and I’m trying, I’m not gonna have any issues. This is far from the truth. I believe this is something which is often overlooked in our church today and we fail to really tell and to testify to people that this walk is not easy. Problems are a guarantee because it’s the package that comes with being in a sinful and fallen world however, victory is promised and GUARANTEED through Jesus. That is why Paul says he rejoices in persecutions and areas of weakness, because we can use it to our advantage. If we didn’t have any issues, we wouldn't see our need for Jesus. Our shortcomings teach us to be more reliable in Christ, they force us to have to pray and read our bible more and apply it.  

This Christian walk is a journey and process of character refinement and some things will  not happen overnight which is where I had got it wrong especially when I would beat myself up about not being where I wanted to be or not getting over something quick enough. I wanted discipline without the devotion and experience with God. I sometimes still do. However, without Christ, I cannot make core changes that will last and that requires an everyday sacrifice and devotion to God every second. I’m learning that it is through my devotion to Christ that I am able to be disciplined.

God wants a devoted people who are willing to change and let go of their sins. God wants a people committed to him as well as to the PROCESS of sanctification in order to be impactful to our communities and lead others to Christ too, so they can see and experience the great work He did and IS doing.

If I am going through this process I know someone else is too and I want to encourage you along with me to not allow our struggles to become our identity. Lets together trust God in this journey we are on, even when its stagnant or super hard.

No sin or problem or place in life outweighs grace and no stronghold is greater than the Holy Spirit. Nothing can separate us from the love of God that was in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:35-39).  Don’t give up because of some mistakes or shortcomings, just decide to choose God each time. He will not cast away His work which He has started in you. It’s not in Gods character to turn away a repentant sinner, “He is not a man that He should lie…” so don’t run away from Him (Numbers 23:19)

I know that although my old habits are not leaving immediately, in Jesus name I will kill those old habits daily as God molds me into His image. I am free, in Jesus name! I am loved, accepted, and forgiven by the mercy and grace of God! Let’s allow ourselves to go through the process and learn especially in the toughest periods of life when we feel like nothing is happening or changing to let God do His greatest work on us.

Old habits die hard, at times I’m beaten but I’m always victorious through Jesus. Im on a journey and I'm making it!

Love Rejoicexox       

He likes me, He likes me NOT ?.. the deal with situationships and relationships.

So, it’s Valentine’s day and this time of year the topic of dating, and breakups, engagement, and marriage is more eminent. But today I want to address a whole new category of relationships that I think we forget about sometimes — a category of relationships that are harder and more confusing than maybe any other.  SITUATIONSHIPS.

This I would describe as the in-between relationships, friends but always a little more, sort of dating, but not quite, liking each other but never actually pursuing anything, together but without a title. The question of what are we always looms over your shoulder, if they do something you don’t like, you don’t really have any right to be mad. They’re fun but confusing, FULL of emotion, totally lacking clarification, and they can be stressful and very time-consuming. You both might say “you’re not ready for a relationship” yet you clearly want to be with him “you’re going with the flow and seeing how things go”. Trust me, of these I know too well.

As females, we tend to overanalyse almost everything. Our brains go into overdrive, trying to work out whether the guy we are interested in REALLY likes us and if we would work out, then we also think about why we are overthinking things and how we probably shouldn’t be in a relationship anyway. These types of thoughts and relationships whether you like it or not also seeps into your relationship with God, so instead of it being about HIM, it’s now about him. Now you’re distracted, your prayers are very emotion-led versus spirit-led. You might even ask God to show you whether this is the right guy or not and what He thinks of the relationship, and sure enough He gives you the signs and reasons and your gut feeling is also telling you NO! But alas, you go ahead and pursue the relationship anyway, plunging into low self-esteem wondering why you’re not enough to be in a relationship with. Your prayer time is consumed with prayers about the guy, you’re not really focused on things above or how God feels. Over time your prayers become more and more selfish and even worse maybe they come to a halt altogether because of this mess.

Now this is a topic I could go on and on about from personal experience and from stories of friends and observations. Today however, I just wanna drop some knowledge that if I could go back and give myself or someone else advice I would say. One thing I would most definitely say is that “Girl, he is NOT worth it!!!”

I know how much you care for this guy, how often you pray for him, how badly you want things to work out and it would be AWESOME if he’d make his intentions known and make the plunge. You’re probably asking yourself if he doesn’t like me then why is he flirting, or treating me like his girl? You’ve probably prayed for God to remove any feelings for him but they are still there so now you’re wondering if it means it’s okay? Then you also have your friends and other outsiders telling you how great and perfect you guys would be together.

I know you’re probably feeling and playing detective trying to put pieces together and you’re in a never-ending que just waiting. It’s all just complicated.

 Now coming from someone free from such nonsense (because that’s exactly what it is), don’t give your emotions away until its truly asked for in honest and open pursuit and unless he shows you how he feels and commits to that. Don’t fall in the trap of mixed messages. If the relationship is going to happen there is a point when the guy has to make his intentions clear and come through. Until then keep yourself to yourself. This can be super hard because as females, we are such lovers and we want to care and connect with others. As amazing of a trait this is, it can land us in trouble when we become invested in the wrong person and at the wrong time. You probably have so much hope that he is going get it together and recognise the QUEEN you are especially because you’re putting so much in. But unless he tells you how much he likes you and asks for the commitment and you get the go ahead from God. He has no place in your heart.

Please, I beg of you to let it go and start to appreciate the One who has done it ALL for you. He loved you since the beginning of time, had a plan for you to prosper you, He was and is STILL intentional about you and He SHOWED it through the plan of salvation. Don’t forget that right now you have the most amazing man after your heart. “For your Maker is your husband-- the LORD Almighty is his name-- the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.” (Isaiah 54:5) BEFORE you were in the womb He knew you (Jeremiah 1:5).He has written your name on his hand with blood shed on the cross from borrowed nails (Isaiah 49:15-16).In that moment when you’re feeling LONELY and really want a special text or just some human company that’s NOT your friends ,He wants to fill you up so you will never thirst again; “He will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.” (Isaiah 58:11). Don’t settle for anything from a guy when God has promised to give EVERYTHING you need in Jesus. He is not a man that He should lie for everything He has said has come through! You will not be disappointed but instead MIND-BLOWN by such an indescribable love that is not based on emotions or situations but just because He loves you, wants you and THE BEST FOR YOU. 

A Godly woman fears the lord, she lives her life for THE KING before she lives for a king. She loves the Lord and does everything for His glory and purpose. If you’re crazy about a guy who is flaky and probably not the right one imagine when it is the right one approved by God himself and you will have peace about it. Your future guy who is of GOD is out there depending on you NOT to settle and waste time creating unnecessary baggage before God allows you to be together. Let it Go, don’t forfeit your future on a situationship, on something not beneficial for you.

It’s not easy, especially when you’re in the moment, when feelings are running so strong and you have made a form of bond with the guy. But girl, you really deserve nothing less. Neither you or the guy will benefit in this situation as both of you will be left confused, tied up and emotional about the thing. As much as it is a learning experience, it takes away time from God and being focused on heaven and your earthly goals.

I’m praying for you right now — for the desire to let the situationship go and for you to crave God instead. I’m also praying for you to have strength, and wisdom, and clarity. There is nothing easy about this situation, but God’s in it with you and when He responds LISTEN THEN MOVE. The lesson of disobedience will be even worse to bear.
stay tuned for part 2

Love Rejoicexox.

You’re doing the most! - I was ATTACKED by another Christian for my faith.

In John 15:18-27, Mark 13:13 and Matthew 10:22 we are repeatedly told by Christ that people will hate us because we choose to follow him. However, what is unfortunate is that those who profess to be Christians can be the ones to dish out the fiercest attacks!

Not long ago I met up with a fellow Christian as I was working who I hadn’t seen in a while. He asked me how I was doing and eventually the topic of religion popped up. He started asking me questions about what I believed in which I gladly answered. However, what was a pleasant conversation took a turn for the worst as he began to ask about my thoughts on certain topics in the bible. He started to get hyped up as we talked about Christianity today, the Sabbath and the Trinity. Then all of a sudden, the conversation switched to me. He started to accuse me of posting too much biblical stuff on Facebook. How he thought I was trying to act like a preacher, how I was doing too much of talking about God and how I was trying too hard to be good because I wouldn’t attend a certain event. Talk about zero to 100 real quick! Like I literally had no room to respond because he was on the defensive and had his accusations ready. I was completely taken back by this.

In my mind, as I was talking to him I tried to brush it off and I said Lord, you know I love you and everything I do Lord is for your glory and your namesake. But as he continued I got a little upset so I kindly dismissed him to carry on with my work. My mind went into overdrive! I thought to myself, this must be the devil because I don’t think I do too much for God, in fact, I could do MORE and BETTER; If I was doing too much that it was offensive, one of my friends or family would have told me … I prayed but still had some doubt then I even went as far as scrolling all the way on my Facebook profile looking for any offenses that would lead someone to believe I was doing too much. Nothing really stuck out to me as I considered maybe to stop posting about God and hold up on writing my blog. I was really upset and slightly confused because this guy basically questioned my entire character, faith, and motives with no tangible cause. I talked to a good friend of mine who is of the Muslim faith and asked him if he thought I portrayed offensive Christianity to which he replied “No” and how he actually enjoyed and got some encouragement from the verses and quotes I posted and he admired my faith etc. Later on, that evening I phoned my Dad (Love him) and he put things in perspective for me. He said to me daughter, the devil can come and attack people in different ways and sometimes he utilises people into leading you into thinking that you’re doing wrong when as a Christian, you should not be ashamed to show Gods leading in your life -Deny Christ he will deny you on the day of Judgment. He continued to say don’t be drawn into arguments with the devil for doing the work of the Lord!

That conversation with him really got me into thinking because it’s something that too often happens in the Christian faith. Basically, some Christians say statements like “you’re doing too much to try and please God. It doesn’t take all that. Why do you keep posting about this? You’re being extra”.  Like since when has that been a thing? When has trying, your best been a bad thing? In sports, they say go hard or go home, but do that for Christ, lukewarm Christians and those who enjoy sin say it’s too much. Since when?

 If people can be bold about their own beliefs and lifestyles which have nothing to do with God, then why should you deny Christ? How can you aspire and live too holy when heaven is the goal?  How is not getting drunk and going to wild parties being extra? How is warning people about the second coming of Christ too much? Maybe we aren’t doing the most and actually doing the minimum and that effort is rubbish and not even worthy to present to God.

That evening as I went to do my evening devotion, God drew me to the book of Job chapters 1 and 2, God actually asks Satan if he considered His Servant Job., God brought Job to Satan's attention, not because Job was doing wrong or “too much”, but because Job was the greatest servant of God on the earth at that time. When Job started getting attacked,his WIFE and FRIENDS who should have known better even encouraged him to curse God and die!

The devil's main focus is to divert, distract and disarm those who are promoting the rule of God on the earth as it is in heaven. He will use anything or ANYONE. Don’t let people guilt or shame you for your love for God when their own love for themselves is limiting them into accessing the intimacy and relationship with God that you have and/or are attempting to reach. Do not allow surface level people to guide you on heavenly things because they can’t understand it. If you are sold out for God continue to be in His word, don't be discouraged when you are attacked or allow yourself to be deceived into thinking that you’re doing too much for God because there is no such thing! You are being targeted because you are hitting the devil where it hurts! This is why Paul said "Our struggle is not against flesh and blood but against principalities, powers and the rulers of darkness in high places" (Ephesians 6:10-13)., The apostle Peter also tells us to resist the devil, standing firm in the faith (1 Pet. 5:9). Peter understood first hand that faith in God is pivotal against attack because, when he denied Christ three times, Jesus prayed for him that his "faith" would not fail (Luke 22:31-32). 

Do not ever think that just because God is calling you to do something that it will be easy. Jesus did the will of God and He was crucified. He died for you and me to live forever. So, let’s asks ourselves, are we doing enough and if not, how can we not do the most after Jesus has done so much for us?

Love Rejoicexox.

Invest In yourself: My 2017 booklist

One goal I set for myself in 2017 was to read a lot more. Reading is something I have loved from a very young age. I’ve learned that it’s one of the most amazing ways to invest in your spiritual life, social life and homemaking life when you read the RIGHT books. A lot of people especially in this generation have been so consumed with work, school, media and other things that time is not made to cultivate the mind by taking time off to quieten one’s environment and pour into themselves.

 One of the reasons I said the RIGHT books is that we are in a spiritual warfare of the mind. Satan has many ways of unsettling the mind so we lose sight of God. You don’t have to believe in God to know that our world, especially the entertainment industry incorporates hate, intolerance, and violence into movies, music, books and video games in order to increase sales. These acts are a form of desensitizing our personal values, polluting our minds, and destroying our world, it is imperative that we dwell on “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable” (Philippians 4:8).

One of my favourite authors Ellen G White said “Satan knows that to a great degree the mind is affected by that upon which it feeds. He is seeking to lead both the youth and those of mature age to read story-books, tales, and other literature. The readers of such literature become unfitted for the duties lying before them. They live an unreal life, and have no desire to search the Scriptures, to feed upon the heavenly manna. The mind that needs strengthening is enfeebled, and loses its power to study the great truths that relate to the mission and work of Christ,—truths that would fortify the mind, awaken the imagination, and kindle a strong, earnest desire to overcome as Christ overcame.” (Ellen White, The Youth's Instructor, Oct. 9, 1902.)

In saying that, THIS is my current reading list and some thoughts on the books:

1.     The Bible

I already read the bible and to be honest, it's my most picked up book, but I need to read it more. This year I greatly desire to grow deeper in my relationship with God. I want to know my maker and designer of this universe. I want more about Jesus, His thoughts, His plans, His character, and to know more of why He does what He does. Furthermore, as a Christian I ought to have engraved in my mind what I believe, why and where it’s found. So I’m currently on a bible reading plan. One plan which I like and also incorporates additional literature is from (http://www.prophesyagain.org/bible-reading-plan)

2.     Reflecting Christ (Ellen G White)

This is the book I’m currently reading for my daily devotionals. As Christians, our responsibility is to share with others what God has shown to us. Ellen G. White  had much to say about this responsibility—and the transforming effect of beholding Christ. This complete change of heart affects not only the spiritual life but also the physical, mental, and social.

3.     Patience in the midst of Trials and Afflictions (Samuel Pipim)

This book insightfully explains the nature of patience, why God permits trials and afflictions, and how you can benefit from them.

4.     Messages to Young People (Ellen G white)

This compilation answers many of the questions that arise concerning Christian conduct in a modern world such as - God's Purpose for the Youth, The Conflict with Sin, Gaining Victories, Preparation for the Life Work, Health and Efficiency, The Home Life, Courtship and Marriage. One thing I love about this book is that It can be read based on themes and sub themes.

5.     Praying for your Future Husband (Gunn and Goyer)

In Praying for Your Future Husband, Robin and Tricia share their two vastly different experiences, including the things they did right and the mistakes they made on the path to meeting and marrying their husbands. Each chapter includes helpful Bible verses, prayers, and practical application, along with true stories of women who prayed for a husband and how God answered in remarkable ways.

6.     The Purpose Room: A Meeting Place Where You Discover, Birth and Accomplish Your God-Given Purpose (Heather Lindsey)

Heather Lindsey shares her years of living purposeless without Jesus. She candidly shares her peaks, pitfalls, and what she has learned along the way as the Lord has revealed His purpose to her. If you’ve ever struggled with identifying, being afraid of, or walking in your purpose, this book is for you.

7.     When God Writes Your Love Story (Eric and Leslie Ludy)

In their most popular book, bestselling authors Eric and Leslie Ludy challenge singles to take a fresh approach to relationships in a culture where love has been replaced by cheap sensual passion. 

8. Spanning the Abyss: How the Atonement Brings Humanity and God Together ( Angel Rodriguez)

9. When God says Remember (Mark Finley)

This small book asks and answers questions about the Bible Sabbath, its origins, its history, and its relevance today.

10. Mind, Character and Personality (Ellen G White)

Being a Psychology major at University I’m super interested in the mind lol! This volume has been on my mental reading list for the longest! 

This first volume includes sections on the study of the mind, the development of the mind, basic relationships, the growing personality, life’s energizing force, selfishness and self-respect, adolescence and youth, and guiding principles in education. This second volume includes sections on the interrelationship of body and mind, mental health, emotional problems, problems in adjustment, personality, thoughts and their influences, false systems of therapy, principles and their application, and practical psychology.

Reading is such great joy and insight. I can’t wait to read, ponder and reflect on these books! I would really encourage you to pick up a book and start a reading habit. Use the knowledge acquired from your readings as a means to create deeper connections with your family, friends, and community. SHARING IS CARING !

ENJOY ! J

Love, Rejoicexox

Overcoming negative thinking: 5 steps towards more peace in the new year.

In our excitement to welcome the new year it can be easy to forget that just like the previous year, everything WILL NOT be perfect and most likely you will be carrying over the same old mindset into the new. Challenges will arise and there are gonna be issues you need to address. However, I’m so grateful that we serve a constant God, if he could strengthen us through last year, he is faithful to do the same this year. However, to make this life a little bit easier, we have to work with him and protect our peace. This is incredibly vital because eventually the newness of the year is gonna wear off and if we are not careful our emotions are gonna run our lives when people get on our nerves or most importantly when we fail to meet the expectations we set for ourselves. I’ve come to realise that it’s in those moments that it becomes easy to forget who we are through Christ and who we are living for.

Now the reason I thought it was important to write about this, is because that’s an area I sometimes really struggle with and God had to check me on this. If I’m to be completely honest with you, I had one too many tantrums last year and allowed seeds to grow in my life that should have never been planted which led me to be VERY upset. I was an emotional mess until God went and got me together. I remember one night as I was having my devotional I cried in frustration to God because I just felt so attacked by thoughts in my own head!

It was literally as if my mind was plagued with things I wanted to happen, events, and worries about my future. I cried Lord I claim your word that “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13) and you “…have plans to prosper me and give me an expected end...” (Jeremiah 29:11) but I’m finding it hard to be positive and walk out in faith claiming your promises! What I knew I ought to do, it seemed impossible for me to do and I was about ready to be done. As I sat talking to God I began to cry because of all my anxieties and He spoke to me and said

 “Rejoice, what door is open in your life that you’re allowing the devil to come through and breed these false and negative thoughts? Are you allowing social media such as Instagram, relationship posts and the music you’re listening to, to plants seeds of discontentment? Who are you following, watching and wanting to be like that it's causing you to doubt who I say you are. I need you to guard your heart Rejoice so I can tell you my secrets and show you my heart and things that are unseen, not these temporary earthly attainments. Stop using these things to make you feel good about yourself, I want your entire heart and you have to grow up. Once you let go of these worldly ideals can you then be content in every area of your life. My grace is sufficient for you. My strength is made perfect in your weakness”.

 In that moment, I repented to God for putting other things before him. I also decided to hit back negativity with the word of God and what he says about me, not what is fed on media and other people’s expectations. The world will and IS trying to deceive you by telling you that if you don’t have this or are going through that, then your life ain’t popping, you’re missing out or could be better. Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with setting goals for ourselves, but we are to fix our eyes on Jesus for heaven is the ultimate goal (Colossians 3:1-2).  Trusting in the Lord brings ultimate safety, peace, joy and assurance of the future. This is a daily decision you will have to make if you want to win against Satan’s attacks and threatening thoughts. We can't afford to be distracted by silly things when there is heaven on the line. What door have you kept open which the devil comes in to steer you off track? Now I’m going to share with you, my 5 practical tips which help guard me against negativity and fear in order to keep my peace.

1.      Put on the whole armour of God- look at Ephesians 6:14-17. Too many of us are refusing to get dressed each morning and are walking around in rags or even naked, because we don’t read and apply the word of God DAILY and wonder why things aren’t going so well.(Belt of truth, Breastplate of Righteousness, Shoes of the gospel of peace, Shield of faith and Helmet of truth.)We are in a spiritual warfare and our salavation is on the line!
2.    Mind your company- Bad company corrupts good character ( 1 Corinthians 15:33). Whether we like it or not the people and the things we entertain rub off on us, hence why we start to imitate friends’ expressions or characters on the tv shows we watch. If you have friends who are constantly talking down about themselves or other people or better yet if they love to sit and compare other people’s lives etc it's time to evaluate those friendships. If you allow yourself to feed of those types of conversations, they will start to affect you in your subconscious and you wonder why you’re negative?? A person who TRULY loves God will not actively go and engage in an environment which does not cultivate their faith or is contrary to the bible without being UNCOMFORTABLE or CONVICTED.
3.    Believe the best! -  Why are you talking to Satan? You need to capture those thoughts and make them obedient to the word of God. God has not given you a spirit of fear, but through him, you’re more than a conqueror.  I always try and base my thoughts on Philippians 4:8. (whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable). I like to ask myself Is what I’m thinking true or have I made up this scenario in my head and ran off with it, now I’m making myself feel bad over what’s not a reality? Am I being led by my feelings and emotions which change? What is the goal of thinking these bad thoughts? There is always good in something so dwell on the positive. Track down your stimuli and get tough with them! What gets your mind going? Is it the explore tab on Instagram, music or a particular tv show ?
4.   Know what the Bible says -  if you’re not sure go to the Bible or go and google some verses concerning your situation then go sit before the Lord. If you don’t know of what God says about you and the future how can you have assurance? The bible will put things in perspective for you and help you to stop making bad decisions and running ahead of God.
5.    Spend time with God- How can you have trust and love for someone you don’t know? Time with God is pure JOY and only He can meet your needs and give you the SPECIFIC diagnosis for whatever is happening in your life. Too often we like to look at other people’s spiritual experiences and lives and then compare it to ours etc. Trust me I have done that! The only person we need to be looking at is God for he was the ultimate example. God wants to spent time with you, Jeremiah 33:3 is just one of many examples where God has called us and said “Ask me and I will tell you remarkable secrets you do not know about things to come.”.  Only when you spend time with him and APPLY the word, you are able to be unbothered by negativity and concentrate more on living a life pleasing to God that will draw others to Him. 

No matter what happens this year, let’s not forget the work God is doing in us and wants to complete in us. As we pray for blessings and opportunities this new year, lets pray that God imparts in us a steadfast spirit that will endure all the hardships to come. Let us pray that we don’t feed our imaginations, fantasies and daydreams based on loneliness, anxiety or desperation. Let us pray that the lord will renew us. As Romans 12:2 says “Don't copy the behaviour and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Things will happen and we can’t control all that will happen, however, we do have the CHOICE to depend on the Lord.

REMEMBER Cheerfulness Brightens the Pathway—It is the duty of everyone to cultivate cheerfulness instead of brooding over sorrow and troubles. Many not only make themselves wretched in this way, but they sacrifice health and happiness to a morbid imagination. There are things in their surroundings that are not agreeable, and their countenances wear a continual frown that more plainly than words expresses discontent.2MCP 759.1

These depressing emotions are a great injury to them healthwise, for by hindering the process of digestion they interfere with nutrition. While grief and anxiety cannot remedy a single evil, they can do great harm; but cheerfulness and hope, while they brighten the pathway of others, “are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.”—The Signs of the Times, February 12, 1885. (My Life Today, 153.)